ebook / ISBN-13: 9781805012665

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Genre: Family & Relationships / Gay & Lesbian Studies / Men's Health

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Gay relationships are different.

We might not have queer elders as role models, or have faced personal and societal trauma, or be experiencing a Second Queer Adolescence. We can’t simply squeeze ourselves into the heteronormative structures we’ve been offered and expect to find happiness.

Weaving theory with personal experience and case studies, this workbook gives you the tools to build a rich, deep, gay relationship. Adapted from the Bader/Pearson developmental model of relationship therapy, and suitable for those practicing both monogamy and alternative relationship structures, this guide supports you from the first flush of the honeymoon to a place of real commitment.

Reviews

As useful for clinicians interested in conceptualizing differentiation as an organizing concept in relational therapy with gay, queer, and male identified same gender loving people, as it is for men looking to better understand how to remain authentic and connected to self and others in intimate relationship.
Joseph Winn LICSW, CST-S AASECT Certified Sex therapist and Certified Supervisor of Sex Therapy
In a vast emotional desert, Tom's book shines like a radiant oasis, offering profound insights and heartfelt guidance for navigating gay relationships. Embrace this treasure map to clarity and connection-your inspiring journey towards authentic love begins now
Peter Pearson, Ph.D. Co-founder The Couples Institute
Tom Bruett tailors conventional relationship advice specifically for gay male couples, saving you the hassle of sifting through heteronormative content for useful insights. With warmth and humor, he offers practical tools for gay men to enhance their relationships and strengthen their connections. -
Michael A. Vigorito, LMFT, CGP, CST-S, Co-author of Treating Out of Control Sexual Behavior – Rethinking Sex Addiction
Tom takes you on a journey from trauma to transformation. You can go as deep as you desire to create the loving relationship that's perfect for you. As a co-creator of the Developmental Model, I am thrilled to have our work so powerfully executed to benefit the queer community.
Ellyn Bader, Ph.D, Co-Founder of The Couples Institute and Co-Creator, The Developmental Model of Couples Therapy